Middle Aged Women With Extra Padding and Sagging?
As I mentioned in the article ("The Fault, Dear Brutus, Lies Not In Our Stars, But In Ourselves"), I would agree that the "shape" that’s changed over the years in either a man or a woman certainly does have an affect. They aren’t either physically or emotionally the same people who met so many years ago. In addition I might add that couples who are actively involved in each others lives are less likely to split up, and more likely to encourage each other to take care of themselves.
That new blonde Wonderbunny or Mr. Tall Dark and Handsome may turn your eye, but if you’re truly involved with the person you’re with it most likely will never get past that point. People who have been truly TOGETHER have a thing called HISTORY, and a comfort zone which Barbie and Ken would have a hard time competing with.
My point is that through understanding some of these possible "reasons" perhaps people can be more aware and take some steps to prevent them occuring. We have the power to make the decisions… Do I work for a company who keeps me away from what’s really important, my family, or do I maybe make a little less money and work for a company who respects family and their families lives? Do I sit on the couch watching Oprah for years while my butt grows, or do I stay active?
People CAN grow together, and breaking up a relationship and/or a family isn’t inevitable unless we ignore the signs and refuse to make the changes in ourselves to prevent it.
I am not asssigning blame to either male or female, because we are all guilty. In some respects Corporate America too should own part of the blame for worshipping the almighty dollar while its employees, who made them that dollar, have to continue to lead unhappy and unfullfilled lives.
D Brooks