Cheat’n Men?
There is a lively discussion going on at MBC right now, so I thought I would start your week out with a juicy subject.
As one of those nazty men I guess I should weigh in on this one with my opinion….
Historically men have taken the brunt of the "cheatin" tag because let’s face it… throughout history men, until the last 100 years or so, had the freedom and the attitudes to cheat. Historically men had more rights, priviliges, and freedoms socially. While not necessarily encouraged, having more than one woman was certainly condoned by society. (The Romans, who actually accepted women who had "lovers" as commonplace is more the exception than the rule) Soooo… I think it simply became a societal "habit" to assume that it was always men who cheat.
Things have changed and speaking from my own past experience it can happen for any reason or for no reason at all in either gender. (I have a cousin whose wife left him because he smelled like hamburger all the time because he worked in a fast food joint where they both met… and I lived with a woman myself who told me as she was leaving that I didn’t deserve this and had done nothing wrong) Simply put, relationships have become entirely too "throwaway" for couples to think they have to stay together in a relationship they actually have to work at. Somewhere along the line Until Death Do Us Part became Until Somebody Better Comes Along… better looking, more money, more powerful, who the hell knows what some people want… but it has become obvious that at least where relationships are concerned people have become complacent and lazy.
People just don’t seem to grow together anymore. They don’t seem to want to expend the effort learning about each other and making the changes in themselves equally to build the strength a lasting relationship needs to succeed. The bottom line is though that it certainly isn’t just men… both genders need to take the responsibility for what happens. No relationship is all to one parties credit or blame, it’s a shared responsibility.